Healed by Love​

 

Love has little to do with the emotions we associate with it. Love is looking at someone as they are, wholly and without any hidden feature, and then embracing and accepting every bit and the whole of them in an utterly complete way. This is the definition of unconditional. This is the fullness of Love: to so profoundly accept, embrace, and esteem someone that any hesitation, trepidation, uncertainty, or reservation you might have had about them fades into oblivion. It’s beautiful. And rare.

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We can love ourselves that way, too. Loving ourselves in this beautiful and rare manner is the key to healing. It begins with seeing ourselves as we truly are. We spend so much psychological energy trying to keep from ourselves those aspects of our being that we reject, denying that which we prefer not be seen. We cannot bring ourselves even to look upon those parts of ourselves that we could never truly love.

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But on the day we love ourselves unconditionally, we’ll be able to look upon it all, to see ourselves wholly. On that day, we will be able to accept totally and embrace the entirety of our own being. This is absolutely true, because unsheathing is healing, bursting the bubbles of denial is growing, and seeing oneself is loving oneself.

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Healing works like this: you allow your awareness to expand, to see the evidence that there is something within you that you need to bring into the light of self-love. You perceive a blindspot in your consciousness and then you begin to search it out. You dig past the veneer of denial, past the defense mechanisms and cover-ups, and you find the root: trauma, bad conditioning, internalized fear, or whatever.

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When you finally see the brokenness, the hurt, the effect of it all upon you, how you’ve been shaped by it, it’s devastating. The tendency is to self-reject. “I am so broken. I can never heal. I am damaged goods.” But Love changes that response. You see what happened to you, but instead of internalizing it and living with the fallout, you understand instead that you didn’t choose any of that. Who you are remains constant and intact, even though it was hidden, buried beneath the pain.

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Herein lies the paradox of self-love and personal growth: before you can heal, you must Love and accept yourself as you are. That kind of Love is what heals. In Love, you perceive that this broken part of yourself can be healed because it is not truly broken. It is hurt, and hurting, but Love renders pain unto joy!  That is self-love. Seeing the whole of who you are, broken pieces and all, accepting them, devoting yourself to seeing them healed, and embracing both who you are at present and who you know you will one day become.
 

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